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More than “just a M* mmy”

Seriously I know I’m going to sound like such a hypocrite as a lot of my content is Mummy motivated but seriously, I want to take it back to basics .. Who was I before I became “Mummy”. I was “P”… Not just a Mummy.

My reason for having such a Mummy focused blog at present is because I pride myself on blogging based on how I feel at the time. This ensures that my content is authentic and straight from the heart. For the last 6 months I have been strictly in Mummy mode, so my posts have been predominantly based around my Mummy Shenanigans. 

This was set in stone last weekend when my son said “Mummy, why are you going without us, don’t you love us?” and at that point the mummy in me wanted to unpack my bags and cancel my girly weekend.  But the “P” in me replied ‘Son of course I love you, but I love myself too so it’s important that Mummy has a break and refills her cup”. His reply “what cup” 😂

Who were you before you became “Mummy”

Now you’re going to either love this post or you’re going to hate it. But during my daily scroll through Instagram. I connect with so many mummies, and mummy bloggers. I know so much about their children (age, likes, dislikes) yet I know so little about The amazing women who created them. What makes you smile? What was your dream as a little girl? What’s your favourite wine? Who are you? 

And more importantly Who the “fuck am I” I’ve asked myself for the last 6 months of maternity leave. The truth is, I know who I am, I know what I want out of life, I have robust expectations and I refuse to compromise . But every now and then motherhood throws me out of sync, just when I think I’ve got my shit together. 

This whole loss of identity stuff

Hands up if you’ve ever had a Mum identity crisis!!?? I’m a cross between a drunk off paw patrol, sleep deprived, converse wearing zombie. With a hint of 6 inch heels wearing, hair flowing through the wind Kinda girl when I get a quick boost of energy.

Loss of identity is a real issue, and I’ve spoken to countless mothers who have experienced the loss of identity phase. In fact today I left my house with only one hand of my nails painted because I needed to take my son to school.😂 (me trying to create an identity.. But once again being humbled by motherhood). 

As humans our identities change and evolve as we progress through the differing stages of our life. And the last 6 months have taught me that you can have more than one identity . I am the career woman, the goal getter, the fiancée, confidant, the travel junkie, and a millennial girl facing millennial problems. 

Feeling like you’ve lost your identity can really compromise your emotional well being so if you’re going through this, and need some one to talk to. Please, email me,  message me, DM and let’s talk about it. I’m always ready with an open ear. You can read more about my loneliness and loss of identity here

 

Not just a Mummy

 

So! With that being said, allow me to re introduce myself and Include 10 facts aside from being a mother of two gorgeous boys.

Hey, my names P. 

  • I’m the “strong friend” the go to, and the comforter.
  • Career wise, I am a children’s services practitioner, a court advisor, a youth engagement officer and now a blogger. 
  • I have a degree in Criminology & Criminal Justice and another in Applied Criminology. 
  • I pride myself on helping others, I don’t have a bad bone in my body and those of you that know me will know I would give you my last pound. 
  • I’m a sucker, for 6 inch heels, lippy and a cute cocktail bar. 
  • Generally I’m not designer mad but I love cute designer hand bags.
  • I’ve been with my partner for 10 years and I can’t get rid of him 😂 I think he’s here to stay. 
  • I’m an advocate for female empowerment. 
  • I brought my first house when I was 22
  • My favourite hobby is boxing.

This is ONE for you! 

I want to know three facts about you aside from being a mother? 

 

6 thoughts on “More than “just a M* mmy””

  1. Love this post!!

    3 facts about me:

    *I love meeting people from all over the world and learning about their culture.

    *I love travelling and exploring new places.

    *When I was a child I wanted to be a journalist.

  2. Wonderful post. It okay to take a break as a mama. I sometimes forget who I am beside being a mom. Here are three things about me!
    -I love to play video games and consider myself a gamer.
    -I am very empathetic and sensitive, helping people any way I can.
    -Love to draw even though I don’t show it.

  3. P- this article!!! You are one of my inspirations in the subject matter that you talk about and your honesty when you do. The loss of one’s identity when becoming a mother is real! So many of us have to take a moment and step back to say I’m also me!

  4. 🙋🏻‍♀️ Love this! And love getting to know you a bit more! Love that you love boxing! Three things about me: I have my doctorate in Physical Therapy. My dream job would be a dancer (but I am no good lol). My top two places I want to visit are Hawaii and Japan.
    What a great post P!! Your content is always great!! ❤️

  5. This post speaks to me so much. Millennial problems are my life! And making time for you is without a doubt so important. You are doing a fab job and I love finding out more about you x

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