Day 1: Your hair was beautifully black and silky, you loved feed time but you struggled to latch on. Breastfeeding was difficult. Mummy was in pain due to her c-section procedure.
Day 2: We left the hospital and your big brother was so happy to have you home, he thought you was a doll.. His doll! And he absolutely adored you. “best big bro” he used to say.
Day 3: You were admitted to hospital as you lost over 14% of your body weight and the doctors were extremely concerned. Mummy was sad, mummy felt disappointment , mummy felt like a failure.
Between day 3 and month 6, my journey is a bit of a blur. What’s sad is that I don’t remember the fine detail like my temperament, my emotions and my c-section recovery over the last 6 months.
Hindsight is a wonderful thing. When I look back I realise that a crucial part of my motherhood journey that was completely absent was my ability to reflect and recite my thoughts, feelings and emotions. Any one who has ever had a child will know that the first few months your brain is like mush and can be difficult to recall specific elements. Particularly if you have suffered with post natal depression, loss of identity or baby blues.
When you’re busy raising children, time flies and sadly some memories slip away. Imagine if you had a resource, which fitted in your handbag that allowed you to actively reflect on the early stages of motherhood on a daily basis. Identify your emotional well being, ability to cope and highlight the positives.
Well, my lovelies .. Mastering Motherhood does just that.
I honestly wish I would have had this Journal from the very first day, that being said it’s an absolute pleasure to be gifted with a resource which I firmly believe is going to improve my ability to parent, my emotional well being and my gratitude towards motherhood.
The face behind Mastering Motherhood
The author of this book is the mother of an IVF baby. She speaks of the moment she learnt that she was unable to have a child, which spiralled into anxiety and depression. Her experience lead her to delve into the world of ‘self help’. Cathlyn implements self help strategies within her everyday life. She is now the mother of a beautiful little girl. What a fairytale ending.
“For me, the transition to motherhood was amazing, but wow it was so tough!Some days I felt I had it nailed. On others I felt such a failure. Days can feel so long when you have had no sleep and it’s easy to lose sight of the bigger picture. I’m a self help junkie and trained life coach. The techniques I’d learnt helped me so much. So here they are. In a book. That I really hope can help others“ (Author)
The mastering motherhood journal combines an assortment of coaching and personal growth techniques. What’s unique about this Journal is it’s ability to help you stay present in mind. However, the beauty of this resource is that its solely based in the context of motherhood. The book supports personal growth and recognition of your thoughts and feelings as you progress through motherhood.
When I opened the packaging I instantly fell in love with colour of the journal. Why? Because it’s extremely welcoming and refreshing. I tend to complete my journal in bed when I wake up and I can honestly say, seeing this colour first thing in the morning promotes optimism.
On the first page of the book there is a bright yellow love gear which reads “Hello Lovely Mummy” I smiled when a saw this. It added a warmth and personal touch to the journal.
Daily pages: Each of the daily pages has 4 segments. One page to be completed in the morning and one for the evening only.
Some days as mothers we are absolutely knackered and getting out of bed can be a chore within itself especially when sleep deprivation strikes. What I love about this Journal was its ability to make me think about all the positive perks that motherhood provides. Without this resource there is no way I would have recorded my positive intentions and thoughts for the day.
My favourite question was “what being a great mother means to me”. On that very morning I woke up feeling a bit deflated. However after reading this I began to ponder the question. Being a great mother wasn’t lying in bed feeling rubbish, or dreading my day ahead. Being a great mother was getting up and interacting with my baby boy, showering him with love and encouraging him to meet his milestones. It’s crazy because that very moment I sprung into action. THANK YOU “Mastering Motherhood” because the theory works. It was that little bit of encouragement I needed.
The words I’d give to another mother
The “words I’d give to another mother” section really resonates with me. For those of you who know me and follow my blog know that I’m passionate about empowerment. Empowering others is my method of therapy. So I absolutely love this section. And the old saying “follow your own advice” definitely applied here for myself. This is a beautiful element of the Journal.
In the evening the pages allow you to actively reflect on your day. Pinpoint specific challenges, achievements and memorable moments. It’s been so priceless to look back through pages to assess distance traveled in terms of emotional well being and coping mechanisms. It’s also been beautiful fo record my babies milestones.
Weekly time line: This is literally like a diary and an organiser. There is a space on the Journal so at the beginning of each day you can record your child’s activity which helps you to identify patterns in their behaviour, particularly if your baby is newborn.
However I used this timeline to record doctors appointments, reminders to take my medication, and to record patterns reading my sons acid reflux condition. Honestly it’s so handy as I can just refer back to as when required.
Weekly check In: On the last day of each week there is a double page questionnaire which allows you to reflect on different areas of your life including finance, relationships and health. Looking at my answers written down really highlighted the positives within my life. At times when my emotional well being takes a turn for the worse, I have many protective factors which encourage me to keep going.
“My power statement” acts as a personal mantra to promote a positive mindset for the week ahead. I’m a huge fan of affirmations so I loved this section.
Mother to mother I can honestly say that this Journal has improved my ability to reflect on my thoughts, feelings and emotions. Before having the journal I will admit that I would rarely give myself motivational talks and mantras for the day ahead, which would often leave me with a lack of direction. It’s crazy that a resource can reprogramme your brain to become more optimistic. I feel that as mothers we should all have a journal in which we can document all the difficult, happy and beautiful moments that motherhood presents.
A special thank you to the author for the production of such an empowering resource.
- I love the colour of the journal, its refreshing and very inviting.
- It literally does take 5 minutes which is great as we all know motherhood is a full time job.
- Cathlyn, the Author creates a very welcoming and down to earth theme throughout the journal.
- This resource most definitely captures the beauty of motherhood.
- The journal acts as a prompt so you can adjust this to your own style.
- The journal implements self help and personal growth techniques.
- It definitely promotes self reflection and positive mindset.
- I love “the words I’d give to another mother section”. This really promotes Mummy empowerment.
- The “weekly check in” pages are amazing to summarise the weeks events.
- Ideal as a gift for a new mummy.
- I would have loved for the journal to have been hard back.
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