Inside The Mind Of A Boy Mum/Mom

So I’ve had the pleasure of collaborating with the beautiful Mannie Nanni and her gorgeous little boy Adam on my latest post! Ive had so much fun working with her to put this blog post together and I think it’s one that so many boy moms/mums can relate to.

If you want to see more of the lovely Mannie please follow her on Instagram at: www.instagram.com/relissacharae

It’s crazy to think I’m a boy mum of two!! I always imagined myself having a little boy and a mini version of me with perfectly matching nails, going on Shopping dates and girly adventures.. Instead, I am standing at the side of a football pitch freezing my butt off thinking “Is this life”. Haha! That being said I am both my sons biggest cheerleader and they make me so unbelievably proud. Nearly 4 years into being a boy mum I honestly wouldn’t have it any other way.. boys are extremely loving! And you cant beat conversations with a 3 year old who wants to celebrate his willies birthday because it “Growed” a bit. 😂😂

However, I will always consider what it would be like to be the mother of the bride, the realisation that I may never get to be a birthing partner to a “daughter” and one day when I am old to do anything who will wipe my butt and tie my hair up for me. But most importantly I hope that in a world where men are expected to be as hard as steel, my boys will always feel they can talk to Mummy about their troubles.

OK , so my kids are 3 and 3 months old! BUT I can’t be the only boy mum that has thought about these things! It’s not quite the same being the mother of the groom! I would’ve loved to have had that rush of emotion when I saw my daughter in a beautiful white dress as she prepared for the biggest day of her life.. instead I will be sat in “anticipation” as my son walks out the fitting room in a suit that looks exactly the same as the the last 5 he tried on but in a different colour.

I wonder if my daughter in laws will want to have me in the birthing suite when they give birth or if I will be that Grandmother sitting outside in the waiting room, listening anxiously for the cries of my precious grand-child. Honestly, I long for a good relationship with my daughter in laws. I hope to be some one they can look up to and confide in. I only hope that they’re not total bitches and my son has good taste in women haha!

I bet I sound so harsh right now! But this is in the mind of a boy mum so I have to be honest!

Finally, as a man I honestly feel that there is so much pressure on them, to be the bread winner, to protect their family and to be a macho man. Although I will raise both of my sons to provide for their family and stand on their own two feet. I really hope that my sons never feel that weight of the world on their shoulders and that they have emotionally strong women to pick them up when they are down. Because the truth is I won’t always be around.

Mannie, since you had your little man 7 months ago.. What are the things that go through your mind as boy mom?

“Do I really wish I had a girl like everyone asks me even though I say no? Who am I raising my son to take care of and love when he becomes an adult? Am I hurting my son’s privates when I hold him on my leg or hip? Is it just me or is the girl’s clothes section WAY bigger than the boy’s section?

Welcome to our male dominated World! Let’s start with the first question we constantly ask ourselves. Do I really wish I had a girl like everyone asks me even though I say no? At least for me, deep down inside, I always knew I was destined to be a boy mom. I am adventurous in spirit and I just always had this feeling that I was being prepared to raise a boy. So when I heard the news that I was having a boy I was naturally thrilled!

Who am I raising my son to take care of and love when he becomes an adult? From the moment I felt him alive and kicking in my stomach, I began thinking about the woman that he may someday be going on this journey of giving birth with. How he would treat her and take care of her. I immediately felt an obligation to show him how to stand by a strong independent woman, and how to support and love her for who she is.

Am I hurting my son’s privates when I hold him on my leg or hip? While I don’t have pediatric confirmation of this, I have convinced myself this is a solid no, and that baby boys are strong dudes. Feel free to enlighten me here, but I hold my son for the most part as if he were a girl in multiple different positions. Although every once in a while my brain sneaks in a questioning thought as to whether he is in pain, but then my little guy gives me a reassuring smile, and my mind is again at peace.

Is it just me or is the girl’s clothing section way bigger than the boys?? You really don’t start to notice this until, you have a to dress a boy. Although every time, I walk in to a store my mind immediately goes into shock mode at the fact that there are 500 super cute girly items while the boys have about 10 pieces which mainly say “cool dude”. And then disappointment sets in, and like a superwoman in the night, my mind immediately rescues me and says, That means more for us girlfriend!” (Mannie Nanni, guest blogger)

Mothers, tell us what goes through your mind as a boy Mum/Mom. We’d love to hear your thoughts.. ❤️

31 Comments

  1. June 15, 2018 / 2:09 pm

    I am also a mom of boys (4 years-old and 4 months-old). It’s a huge challenge to raise self sufficient kids but also who feel comfortable being themselves (whomever that may be). I just want my boys to grow up happy and going after their passions. I was raised in a pretty non-emotional family whereas my husband was raised in an emotional chaotic and unstable emotional family. I’m hoping we can work together for somewhere in the middle, lol

    • June 15, 2018 / 2:16 pm

      Yes, I most definitely agree that happiness is key. And I will also empower my boys to do what make stem happy. You and your husband will find that happy medium. You have the perfect ingredients for it. Thank you so much for reading.

  2. June 15, 2018 / 3:55 pm

    I am a new mom, a boy mom at that. I have to say when I found out he was a boy, I was ecstatic. The kind of person I am, I knew that if I ever conceived, it’d be a boy. There are challenges such as being peed on when it’s changing time but I wouldn’t trade him for the world. Plus, boys adore their mommy.

    • June 15, 2018 / 4:32 pm

      Haha I totally feel you with the pee! It comes with the territory! I love being a boy mum. Thank you for reading.

  3. June 15, 2018 / 5:14 pm

    I have a 10 month old baby son and I guess I don’t know what the future holds, if I will be blessed with another baby or if that baby may be a girl but my son is the most affectionate, loving little man and whatever life has in store for him will always be my baby boy!

    • June 16, 2018 / 4:25 pm

      I agree boys are so loving and affectionate towards their mothers.

  4. June 15, 2018 / 5:34 pm

    Loved to read this! I think I want a boy now! Haha

  5. June 15, 2018 / 8:32 pm

    Having a boy is definitely a different kind of adventure!!! <3 It's definitely heartwarming when they are in a sweet mood 😉 Energy is another story but hey….worth it! 🙂

    • June 16, 2018 / 4:26 pm

      Energy is an understatement. You have to be very imaginative with boys 😂😂

  6. June 15, 2018 / 10:13 pm

    I have a daughter (first born) and a baby boy. It is amazing the difference from the beginning. I really feel like he needs me more for some reason. They have both been pleasant babies but he searches for me all day long with his eyes and ears. It is just amazing how much little boys LOVE their momma’s!

  7. June 15, 2018 / 10:31 pm

    Oh girl. I honestly fear the daughter in law stuff 😩😩😩 that plays such a big part! They say love is one hell of drug and I just hope they choose someone who is well worth it. Aside this another thought that rambles my mind often is will he be successful in life? will he be happy? Will he live is life to the fullest. I pray daily that he keeps his sweet sweet smile ❤️ And as far as the LO, same goes.

    • June 16, 2018 / 4:27 pm

      Let’s just hope we’ve trained them to pick well 😂

  8. Danielle
    June 15, 2018 / 10:38 pm

    I have a bot and some of these thoughts have crossed my mind as well. Recently gave birth to my daughter and similar thoughts cross my mind. I hope that we will be close and I hope my son and I will be close as well.

  9. June 16, 2018 / 1:22 am

    Haha ! I loved this post !! I am also a boy mom and though I still do hope someday I have a girl, i wouldn’t have it any other way !💛

  10. June 16, 2018 / 4:59 am

    I am a boy mom and one thing I think I will miss out not having a girl is that my son will never know how much I loved him as a girl who would later become a mother would. Other than that, I think being a boy mom is absolutely fantastic. Even when I go shopping for him and notice all the cute outfits the girls have, I always think yep, but I don’t have to spend time matching things and ironing and all that jazz. T-shirt and shorts work for me! LOL

    • June 16, 2018 / 4:29 pm

      Yes I totally agree about a daughter becoming a mother. However being a boy mum is priceless. You’re right.

  11. June 16, 2018 / 1:25 pm

    I love this!! I did laugh when I read the bit about celebrating a willy birthday my little boy is 10 months and is obsessed with it!! Can imagine having a similar conversation in a few years !!x

    • June 16, 2018 / 1:56 pm

      Haha you most definitely have it all to come. I am forever laughing at all the random stuff he says.

  12. June 16, 2018 / 4:08 pm

    I’m a girl mom so I can’t relate to all these thoughts yet, but I will tell you even though the girls section is bigger I end up buying her boy pants sometimes because the plain colors are always sold out!

    • June 16, 2018 / 4:31 pm

      Haha I love that you buy boy stuff. I wish I could put a little ribbon in my sons hair😂

  13. June 17, 2018 / 1:51 am

    I have a girl and a boy so I can’t say I totally relate but I do think about some of the things you mentioned. I’ve definitely wondered if I’ve hurt him when I carry him on my hip! Lol! Another thing I worried about was when he was circumcised and I had to put Vaseline on him – would he be traumatized?? I’m still hoping the answer is no!!

    Great read! Loved your collab! ❤️

    • June 17, 2018 / 11:25 am

      Thank you so much for reading lovely.. And definitely with the holding on the hip I’ve had thought the same thing..

  14. June 17, 2018 / 11:12 am

    I love this post and how honest you are, I have a son and a daughter which I feel very lucky to have. I’m incredibly close with my son and I worry a lot that he will marry someone that I don’t like/get on with and it will result in me losing my connection with him as I’ve seen that happen with my husband and his Mother who I don’t get along with, it’s definately a tricky one xx

    • June 17, 2018 / 11:24 am

      Thank you so much for reading.. honestly I love my boys dearly, but my brain does sometimes wonder and think, wow I’d love a daughter! Maybe one day I will have one. You’re so lucky to have one of each. We just have to pray that our boys chose amazing women who we also love LOL! And I agree it is so tricky.

  15. June 17, 2018 / 10:10 pm

    I’ve got two girls so I’m not sure how I would do as a boy mom! I always wanted a boy but had never thought about all these things you bring up – like your sons future weddings! It’s nice to see both sides of things, thank you for posting!

  16. June 18, 2018 / 2:35 pm

    I’m a boy mom and girl mom (2 of each). Loved this post. It’s definitely a special feeling having that little boy who holds yourbheart.

  17. June 18, 2018 / 5:28 pm

    I’m a boy mom to three and I can definitely relate to this! I always thought that if I did have kids, I’d be better suited to girls. Turns out, that’s not the case at all. My boys drive me to the brink but, at the end of the day, they’re what make my heart beat. Love your transparency in this!

  18. Shannon Tereze
    June 29, 2018 / 10:48 am

    This post made me laugh 😂 boy mums rule!

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