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Before having my C-section , I will admit that I was a believer of the old anecdote that women who had C-sections were to posh to push, which often made c-section mothers feel inadequate in comparison to the mothers who gave birth naturally. The stigma attached to having C-sections is so prevalent that when I learned I was going to be a ‘C-section mother’ I felt like a failure.

It was hoped that the second time around I would deliver naturally, however due to my narrow pelvis and previous complications, It was assessed that a c-section would be most suitable to deliver my unborn son.

That being said, I thought it may be a good idea to do “A things no one told me about a c-section”. And my ultimate c-section guide for managing a C-section.

I wish would have known half of this stuff before having a c section!

That you’ll have to inject yourself at home for a whole week after.

The purpose of these injections are to thin your blood to avoid blood clots. I think I found this more traumatising than the actual C-section itself. It was literally like a circus act me running away from my other half while he chased me to inject my stomach. However, they are so important at so a make sure to take them religiously.

You will have a catheter for up to 24 hours post c-section.

The reason for the catheter is to collect urine following the surgical procedure, as the bottom half of your body will be numb. You won’t feel the urge to use the toilet and this is where the catheter comes in. It collects all your urine until you are able to use the toilet independently.

After surgery it takes a while to be sewn up.

Once baby is born it is a while before you actually leave surgery as they have to sew each layer back up one by one and in my case they had to remove old scar tissue so it took a little longer. However time goes so quick as you’re so busy admiring you little bundle of joy.

Getting in the shower for the first time will be difficult

When the Nurse told me to have a shower after my c section I was terrified. It took me around an hour to pysch myself up for it. The reason being that you have a fresh wound and normally when you wet a new wound it stings. However I want to reassure you that it was absolutely fine and didn’t sting at all bonus. I think the most difficult thing was getting in and out the shower without help. My tip would be to take your time and ask for help if you need it.

There will be a lot of people in the room.

Although it was daunting to see so many medical professionals in one room. It was comforting to know that they were all there to make sure my baby was delivered safely. There will be:

1. A midwife to do checks on your baby

2. A Obstetrician, who carries out the surgery

3. Anaesthetist who gives you you spinal to numb the bottom half of your body.

4. A paediatrician in case baby needs help immediately.

5. A nurse who will help the obstetrician with instruments or surgery.

It feels as though some one is washing up in your stomach.

It’s such a crazy feeling, and that’s the only way to explain it! It is not painful in anyway but it does feel as though your body isn’t yours. You will feel intense pressure and a tugging sensation while they’re taking your baby out.

The hospital won’t let you leave until you poo

You must empty your bowels. I was terrified to poo after as I thought my scar would open and all my insides would fall out. It was fine but make sure you use a cushion or pillow and hold it against your incision.

Your stomach will be numb

The anaesthetist will give you a spinal injection to prevent you from feeling any pain during your c-section. I remember a tingling feeling followed by the inability to use my legs. Following the c section my incision and part of my stomach was completely numb. This is due to the nerves being cut during the c-section.

The numbness of your incision might never go, it took around 3 years for my numbing to completely go, then guess what.. I went and had another baby now it’s back again.

You may not be insured to drive

My insurance company did not allow me to drive for the first 6 weeks after your C-section. So please check your policy. I know this is a nightmare as us mothers like to get things done. This is because your mobility and ability to emergency stop in a car accident is limited.

You will bleed

You should still wear sanitary towels, although you haven’t given birth vaginally it still has the same affect on your down below and may bleed for weeks so stock up. In my case it was for a whole month.

The car journey home is so painful.

I remember shouting at my other half to slow the heck down on the humps and pot holes in the road as it was agonising. Again holding a cushion against your incision will help greatly.

You won’t be able to feel your legs.

The spinal block numbs you from your stomach down so you lose total control. In my case I weed myself without even realising. But it’s ok as they advised that they’ve seen worse. I’m just glad I didn’t poo LOL.

Stool Softeners are everything

As you can’t leave the hospital until you’ve pooped, stool softeners will help the process, they will also give you some to take home.. BONUS

Sexy socks

They don’t tell you that you have to wear these extremely sexy socks before during and after your c-section to help your circulation. These are designed to avoid blood clots so be sure to wear them.

Post C-section tips

1. Please take it easy, my c section scar opened in 4 places on two separate occasions as I was up doing house work, hoovering and cleaning when I should have been resting! It’s so important that you rest as you’ve had major surgery.

2. Drink plenty of water, as this will help going to the toilet and will help to minimise constipation.

3. Make sure you keep on top of your pain killers, I can’t stress how important this one is. I remember thinking I didn’t need to take them as I wasn’t in any form of pain.. BOY, was I wrong! I was In agony! Pain killers were my best friend.

4. Keep your incision clean and dry to avoid infection. If you feel any redness or an usual substance leaking from it, please call your healthcare provider. It is possible that it may be infected.

5. Use the stool softener that they give you! This will help for when you go for a number 2 and eliminate the need to strain which may cause pressure to your c section incision.

6. Get emotional support (if needed) having a C section can be a traumatic experience, particularly if it was an emerging C section so please seek support if you’re feeling upset or disappointed.

7. Pack highwaisted pants for the hospital. High waist pants are great as it will prevent anything rub against your c-section scary.

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  1. These are awesome! I wish I had this before my c-section. I always thought it was just the drs saying you couldn’t drive for 6 weeks, I didn’t know it was an insurance thing!

    1. Thanks for reading Hun! I know, there is so much I didn’t know about c-sections.. So it’s definitely been trial and error! Yes, my insurance company said I wasn’t covered to drive. Although I think some allow it!

  2. So insightful, brings back so many memories from when I had mine so many years ago! Although times have changed because they didn’t make me inject myself, but I do remember stool softeners being my best friend!

  3. Great list! I’ve had two c-sections (narrow pelvis club) but…did not have to inject myself at home afterwards. Are you in the UK? Maybe different protocol… that doesn’t sound pleasant!

  4. Great tips! I had never even had an ly kind of hospital stay before my twins were born. I was scared of the catheter, but honestly it was super easy and I was lucky enough not to have pain. The whole experience felt like it was really quick and not what I expected child birth to be like. It left me feeling a little empty, but I’m so in love with my twins I would do it again if I had to!!

    1. I understand that feeling of being a little empty.. because you have no idea what to expect when you go into theatre. It’s unknown territory. Your twins are absolutely gorgeous and so worth it ❤️

  5. I experienced many of what you wrote except for the injections. That definitely sounds traumatizing!! But awesome tips for post c section!! Especially the emotional support! Thanks for sharing! This is so helpful for those who haven’t had c sections!

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